Delve Into Jesus : Questions : Hurt And Confused

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it takes time for your heart to mend... don't in any way feel frustrated, you are human... allow God to mend that heart of yours, He is of all things a comfortor... but before anything, you need to look within and allow yourself to forgive your ex-husband... there are things we can control and things we cannot... of one thing i am sure, he will have to answer to God for his actions, but make sure when its time for you to go to God, you can say you did your part, forgave him and didn't hold any grudges... by all means don't forget because this is a learning experience, but don't let your failure to forgive him rob you of your blessings... this in no way will be easy, not many things are, but with God you can do anything... let God be your strong tower and He will get you through this... and as He begins to mend your heart, be open because you never know what God has in store for you

3/26/2008 5:12:38 PM - Joia, Member of Delve into Jesus since 3/26/2008

Dear Dee,
I'm so sorry to hear about your situation.
Do you belong to a Church that has a good Divorce support group?
You are not alone. I think you may find many are going through similar struggles.
It is understandable that you are angry about your loss. You may feel even guilty thinking what you could have done to prevent some of the things that happened. Being angry for a time is one thing, but staying that way could lead to more harm than good. As you already found out, your anger after a while turned to bitterness. Negative emotions are part of the grieving process though. But don't let the hurtfull feelings become permanent in your life. Focus your attention on the Lord.
He has a future and a hope and healing for you.
"Get wisdom, get understanding: forget it not; neither decline from the words of my mouth." Proverbs 4:5
"...But wise men turn away anger." Proverbs 29:8
"Cease from anger and forsake wrath;
Do not fret; it leads only to evildoing."
Psalm 37:8
(Jesus said;) "I am come that they might have life,
and that they might have it more abundantly."
John 10:10b

3/27/2008 2:32:46 PM - Ignited~Faith, Member of Delve into Jesus since 2/20/2008

(The End of the Wicked Contrasted with That of the Righteous.)
Psalm 73:1-28
Surely God is good to Israel,
To those who are pure in heart!
But as for me, my feet came close to stumbling,
My steps had almost slipped.
For I was envious of the arrogant
As I saw the prosperity of the wicked.
For there are no pains in their death,
And their body is fat.
They are not in trouble as other men,
Nor are they plagued like mankind.
Therefore pride is their necklace;
The garment of violence covers them.
Their eye bulges from fatness;
The imaginations of their heart run riot.
They mock and wickedly speak of oppression;
They speak from on high.
They have set their mouth against the heavens,
And their tongue parades through the earth.
Therefore his people return to this place,
And waters of abundance are drunk by them.
They say, "How does God know?
And is there knowledge with the Most High?"
Behold, these are the wicked;
And always at ease, they have increased in wealth.
Surely in vain I have kept my heart pure
And washed my hands in innocence;
For I have been stricken all day long
And chastened every morning.
If I had said, "I will speak thus,"
Behold, I would have betrayed the generation of Your children.
When I pondered to understand this,
It was troublesome in my sight
Until I came into the sanctuary of God;
Then I perceived their end.
Surely You set them in slippery places;
You cast them down to destruction.
How they are destroyed in a moment!
They are utterly swept away by sudden terrors!
Like a dream when one awakes,
O Lord, when aroused, You will despise their form.
When my heart was embittered
And I was pierced within,
Then I was senseless and ignorant;
I was like a beast before You.
Nevertheless I am continually with You;
You have taken hold of my right hand.
With Your counsel You will guide me,
And afterward receive me to glory.
Whom have I in heaven but You?
And besides You, I desire nothing on earth.
My flesh and my heart may fail,
But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
For, behold, those who are far from You will perish;
You have destroyed all those who are unfaithful to You.
But as for me, the nearness of God is my good;
I have made the Lord GOD my refuge,
That I may tell of all Your works.

3/27/2008 4:46:32 PM - Ignited~Faith, Member of Delve into Jesus since 2/20/2008

Thank you all so much for the words of encouragement and the reminder from the word of God. It's got to get better. You know, I often wonder why I feel so guilty for being so angry and hurt, and guys, I REALLY don't like or want to be like this. I pray and pray that god takes that anger and hurt away from me, but when I hear that he's now brought some female over to his mom's house and he see's the other 2kids he had from his affairs, from time to time that makes me mad, because I don't get it. We were married and had kids and he doesn't see them nor calls very often, and no money comes in as of right now until child support kicks in. But this man is in Medical School now and joined a fraternity, just living it up, while I'm here struggling financially, emotionally, and physically, due to recovering from 2 car accidents and 8 major operations. How unfair can this get! When do the wicked see their reward? And when they do, does God bring back to their rememberence WHY they're being punished? I'm going to continue to stay saved and righteous, but I just don't understand why this has happened, especially when I loved him with my whole heart like a godly wife should.

3/30/2008 12:57:00 AM - dee30, Member of Delve into Jesus since 3/26/2008

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