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I have faced a very similar situation in my own family, so let me tell you about how I handled it, in hopes that it will help you with your own situation. I have an aunt and uncle who would ask me for money every time I came to visit. I often gave them whatever I had, and on two occasions I sent them some money through western union. I knew they were taking drugs, and I felt that it was wrong to give them money until they were willing to at least quit. On my next visit, I told to stop asking for money, and they did stop asking me, but then asked my girlfriend for 20 instead! I was furious, and I have not seen them or spoken to them since. I often wonder if this was the right reaction and if it's what a Christian ought to be doing. What about love and forgiveness? For me, it's not an issue of love or forgiveness. I am not angry with them, I do love them and I do forgive them, but I have chosen not to associate with them anymore because of their behavior. I think this is the right response for me, and it might be the right response for you too. If you can honestly say that you forgive them and would welcome them back with open, loving arms if they changed their behavior, then don't feel too guilty about cutting them off when you are being used. It may be the best thing for you, and actually, it might be the best thing for them too. It might wake them up! Finally, don't forget to pray about the situation and pray for them, too. Let God be in control of the situation, he knows the right thing for you to do! I hope this helps, God Bless.
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8/21/2007 2:06:54 PM
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arsindelve, Executive Director, Delve Christian Ministries
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thank you for your advice it was really helpful. god bless you.
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8/21/2007 3:48:18 PM
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anonymous
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