I need help with a marriage that my husband has cheated on me twice in 25 years. I want the marriage to be saved by God
Can He do this for me. I really want this marriage bad/

5/2/2008 2:15:42 PM by needamiracle, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/2/2008

Is anything to hard for God? Of course your marriage can be saved. You will have to forgive him from your heart for EVERYTHING. By forgiving, I mean you have to GIVE like beFORe he cheated. Ask God to help you forgive him from your heart. God is excellent in the forgiving department. He forgives us everytime we confess our sins. Unforgiveness is a sin. Confess the sin and any other, ask God for His forgiveness as you forgive your husband.

Read Matthew 6:33, 1st Peter 3:4, Titus 2:5, 1st Corinthians 7:2-5, Ephesians 5:22-24 and Hebrews 13:4.
God established marriage. He said marriage is honorable. You must put God first, then your husband. The word of God says, no good thing will He withhold from his children.

Be a woman of God and honor your husband, no matter what he has done. I know you love your husband. You would not have posted if you didn't. If you want your marriage saved, just confess that it is. Believe what you say and it will be so.

There's a good book by Elizabeth George, entitled, "A wife after God's own heart". The paperback runs about 12 bucks. It's a good read for any woman who desires a blessed marriage.

Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be given to you. God bless you and your husband.

5/2/2008 8:05:09 PM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

MrsPiggy,
This is so strange.
All of the verses that you shared here in your message, are all the ones I have been pondering the last couple days!
As I read what you wrote my heart kept jumping with each verse you shared!
Needamiracle,
I pray God honors your situation with a miracle!
With God all things are possible!!!

5/2/2008 10:12:29 PM by Ignited~Faith, Member of Delve into Jesus since 2/20/2008

IgnitedFaith,

You know this is not strange. It's confirmation that you are on the right track. God always does this for His children. The enemy has really been coming against the marriages of the saints lately. I can't count the number of prayers that have gone up for marriage restoration in recent weeks.

Last year, my own marriage was on shaky ground. I am sharing what Father instructed me to do for my own marriage. He is faithful to His word. Whenever I would go to Him about what I thought my husband was doing, my scripture came to me. "What is it to you? YOU follow Me.(John 21:22) I was to put Him first and obey Him and praise Him and trust Him to work things out. I was able to hold my peace after much prayer.

Turns out, my husband wasn't cheating, he was working on a special project. I should have known better after all this time, but he was acting very suspicious. I was starting arguments by not trustng and honoring him as the word of God instructs wives to do. I behaved badly. I had to go to God, confess and ask forgiveness. I had to ask my husband for forgiveness and I had to forgive myself.

The Word says in Ephesians 4:26-27, "In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry and do not give the devil a foothold." We HAVE to forgive right away. When we stay angry, we say and do things that are not pleasing to God. We hold anger and it turns into unforgiveness, which is sin.

So, I had to learn to forgive my husband for everything (even imagined stuff) immediately. I had to talk to myself saying, "No, my husband loves me and he would never cheat because he is a man of honor. He would never dishonor our vows."

I should pause here and let you know my husband is FBI. I knew when I married him, I wouldn't always know where he was or with whom. But it had been a long time since he had an assignment that info was withheld from me. Suddenly, women were calling his cell phone at night and he refused to explain. I am ashamed that I allowed satan to have his way with me for those few months.

Now that I've exposed my own sin, I hope you see that God brings us out of messes we get ourselves in so that we can help the next sister down the road. To encourage her that she has the victory in Christ. And as long as she puts God first, all is well.

I'd like to add that it's mostly sisters seeking prayer for their marriages. I've only come across a couple of brothers requesting prayer. I believe God is calling men to take their place as spiritual leaders in their homes. To be men of honor, righteous and holy and satan is doing all he can to prevent this. Too many men are walking in pride and self-centeredness. The lust of life has snagged them, but I
bring the Blood of Jesus and His work on the cross against these evil spirits, in the mighty name of Jesus. Satan is using unsaved women to lay snares for these men. I pray that God pierces their hearts and leads them to their own husbands. The Bible says let every woman have her own husband and every man his own wife. As it is written, let it be so. God is not mocked and His word does not return to Him void. It will accomplish the purpose He sent for it to do. I believe that if every woman of God search the scriptures concerning marriage, confess and believe them, their marriages will be healed. It is the love of God that causes us to change. Be blessed in all areas of your life, my friend and sister in Christ.Much agape love to you.

5/3/2008 11:14:08 AM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

I thank you for the kind words. They are uplifting. Please I need a miracle. I need the Lord to please, please, pierce my husbands heart and allow him to feel the love that hw has told me so often that he has for me. I need to hear him call me babe again. Please, pray that the Lord would work a little faster in this marriage situation. I love my husband & I want to have a wonderful marriage again.

5/16/2008 12:32:51 PM by needamiracle, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/2/2008

Our God is the God of miracles. Please read Malachi 2:14-17. Then pray a prayer of forgiveness with your husband. There needs to be a cleansing of the wrong doing. The Word says if we confess our sins, He will forgive us and cleanse us of all unrighteousness. As you and your husband are one, ideally you should both pray. If he is unwilling, you will have to pray for both of you. God will not move on your husband's behalf until he confesses his sin to God and ask forgiveness.

Also, I must point out that you never have to use the word "please" with God, the Father. You are his child. He delights in your asking and your receiving His blessings.

After you pray the prayer of forgiveness, be mindful of God. Thank Him and praise Him. Say little to anyone else. It's quiet time. Wait for the still small voice that will lead you into your miracle. You may hear something like, "Cover him". Love covers a multitude of sins. Be sweet, speak to him softly. Don't nag or complain. Build him up. Submit to and honor him. And as often than not, be quiet in his presence.

Do things for him. Little things mean a lot. Today, I washed my own car. It's something my husband won't have to do tomorrow. As wives, we are meant to be helpers to our husbands. Be joyful my sister. Your marriage is saved. Now, you must eat the fruit of patience with love and joy. Pray without ceasing and enter God's rest. Do NOT be afraid. Never let the devil see you sweat.

5/16/2008 3:19:31 PM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

you confirmed what someone else had told me word for word. I am so thankful that the Lord will reveal to us what He is saying through others. I really have been trying. My husband even said 2 day ago that this is the way he always imagined life to be. He even called me a diamond. I really want to do the right thing and I am trying hard to be the good christian wife. Please continue to pray for me. I will keep my eyes on the hills from which cometh my help.
God Bless you.

5/16/2008 4:12:33 PM by needamiracle, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/2/2008

I attended a women's prayer meeting on Friday night. The title of the message was "How Bad do You Want It?" It was a very powerful message.

So, needamiracle I'm passing this along to you. Do you want your marriage bad enough to believe God? Do you want it bad enough to be quiet and let Him work it out? Do you want it bad enough to forgive over and over without losing your patience and joy? Do you want it bad enough to keep your faith and endure all? For better or worse?

5/25/2008 9:04:20 AM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

mrspiggy
YES I DO!!!! YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH!!!! i have never wanted anything as much as I want my marriage restored & healed. I am trying very hard to stay at peace, be quiet, and not judge or allow satan to enter in to my thoughts. I am in prayer all the time and I am letting God work on my situation. I want my husbands love for me to grow back into what we once had (times 100)
For him to love me again like he use to and to call me during the day just ot say he was thinking of me. I know that God has already healed this marriage and I know that He is working on my husbands heart.
Please keep praying for me. I am encouraged by your words and I look forward to posting a praise report about the miracle that God has done for me in my marriage.
Keep me in your prayers

5/25/2008 9:26:48 AM by needamiracle, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/2/2008

Beloved,

I have no doubt that you love your husband or that you truly want your marriage restored 100 fold. I was just passing along the message I received on Friday night. Your desire is my desire. Of course, I will keep you in my prayers. I look forward to hearing your praise report. You hang in there.

This has been going through my mind for the last 24 hours: "He makes all things beautiful in His time". I will have to look it up to see if it's a scripture.

Peace be unto you, my sister.

5/25/2008 5:03:34 PM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

Ecclesiastes 3:11.

5/26/2008 8:07:41 PM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

am I stupid to believe that God is healing this marriage? I really want this, BAD!!! Please GOD save this marriage

5/27/2008 5:45:53 PM by needamiracle, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/2/2008

am I stupid to believe that God is healing this marriage? I really want this, BAD!!! Please GOD save this marriage

5/27/2008 5:45:55 PM by needamiracle, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/2/2008

God is not healing your marriage. It's already healed. "When you pray, BELIEVE you receive and you will have what you ask." You have to believe when you pray. I believed when I prayed. So, it's done. Do you understand the Law of Confession? You are to say what God says. God says your marriage is healed. It's all in the believing!!! Believe it, say it, receive it.

Also, you saying "please God" does not move Him. He acts on believing faith, not begging or emotions. Do not allow the way things LOOK shake your faith. You must have faith in God. He IS Good. and His promise is that no good thing will be withheld from you. You desire a godly marriage with your husband and God has said it's yours. If you allow fear to enter your heart, we'll have to start the praying and confessing all over. I hope this doubt you're expressing is only in your mind. (I'm not saying what's happening is not happening)but doubt cannot enter your heart. God is faithful to His word, and you have to be faithful to Him. Believe Him, not what you see.

Satan, our enemy creates circumstances that can take our attention off God's word and we begin to doubt that our prayer will be answered. You must not let the way things seem/look, take you away from the promise of God. Delight yourself in the Lord. Keep your attention on Him. Not your circumstances.

I know it's tough. You are fighting the good fight of faith. If you hold on to God's word, you win. Hold your peace with your husband no matter how things seem to be going right now. God's turning things around even as you read this. Chill out. God knows what He's doing. He does this about a hundred times everyday.

Find your peace. Center yourself in Him. Read Job. Look at the many circumstances satan brought against him to shake his faith. But he held onto his faith in God.

5/27/2008 7:09:51 PM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

As Jesus told the blind man in Matthew 9:29,

"According to your faith be it done to you."

5/27/2008 7:16:43 PM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

Thank you!!!!!
I asked God to confirm that what I thought I was seeing that was the restoration of my marriage was in fact really that. And you, led by God, confirmed that to me. God Bless you my friend.
I have been saying everyday, "I thank you Lord for restoring my marriage, & touching my husbands heart." It is just sometimes satan likes to put negative things in our minds to cause us to question.
I believe my marriage is healed and restored in the name of Jesus. And I will stand firm in God's promises and love for me and my husband. I will NOT allow doubt in my mind or soul. I will believe that what I am seeing IS really God working. And I will rebuke satan IN THE NAME OF JESUS everytime he tries to rob me of my peace and miracle.
I guess it is like a cake. God has already mixed the batter and put it in pans in the oven now I just need to let it bake so I can eat it.

I thank you God that my marriage IS healed and that my husband's love for me, and my love for him IS growing, and that I will be able to see the end result very soon.

5/28/2008 8:29:08 AM by needamiracle, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/2/2008

Needamiracle,

Please join me in praying for the marriages of others. God has healed your marriage and other wives need to know that God is no respecter of persons. What He has done us, He will do for them.
Thank you, my sister. May God add a blessing to your life today.

5/29/2008 9:05:34 AM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

God has put a true desire on my heart to raise the marriage of others. I was not aware at the amount of marriages that were in need until I started reading the prayer requests on this site.

God can do anything but fail!! Stand on that promise. I have learned alot from the blessed saints on this website and I am so blessed to know that there are people out there who are willing to take time to pray for others to get thier blessings and miracles. We need to unite and put satan back where he belongs, in the pits of hell. I bound you now satan in the name of Jesus. Amen.

I would be honored to pray for all marriages that are in need

I learned from a wonderful prayer warrior on this site (mrs. piggy)
the best thing to do is stay in prayer and remember "Be still and KNOW that I am God." HE is in control and HE knows how to fix your situation for you.

I look forward to praying for each and everyone of you as your marriages are healed and you too can pray for others in this situation.
We need to be united

5/29/2008 9:14:40 AM by needamiracle, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/2/2008

God bless you!!

5/30/2008 9:06:01 AM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

Needamiracle,

I wanted to share this with you. I am an independent signing agent. I perform mobile closings and get to meet different people all the time. Monday, I did a mobile and met tis wonderful couple. After all the documents were signed and I'd notarized all the signatures, the wife walked me out to my car. She was a hair stylist and worked in the same shop as a couple of ladies from my church. We got to talking about the state of christian marriages and she told me of how her husband was always out in the bars and stuff while she was in church. She told me how she stayed before God in prayer about her husband's salvation until he came to Christ. I asked her how long and she said 6 years. Now, he is on fire for God. She said he drags her out of bed on Sunday raring to go to church. Just wanted to you be encouraged while waiting for your husband to become the man of God you desire.

6/12/2008 12:26:23 PM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

Thank you. I was getting a little discouraged by this whole thing. I know that God is an awesome God and He has healed this marriage but sometimes what you see happening makes you ask the question Really? I remind myself that God wouldn't bring me this far to leave me.
So then I start to praise Him for the healing and restoration of my marriage.
I love the Lord with my whole heart. And when I feel that I have let Him down I am so down. I don't want to let God down. I want Him to be able to say "this is my child in whom I am well pleased".
Please keep me in your prayers that I would be the wife that God wants me to be and my husband needs.
This website & the people on it (especially you Mrspiggy) have been a great blessing to me. I really feel blessed to have such wonderful people that I can turn to in my hour of need.
I care for each of you
In His name

6/12/2008 12:36:25 PM by needamiracle, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/2/2008

Don't allow yourself to be discouraged. I know this is easier said than done. I am with you, believing God for my husband's total salvation. So, I do understand. He, my husband, has a "form" of godliness, but he's not consistent. He will go to church, but hasn't joined. Says grace at mealtime but never leads prayer at home, etc. I am, and want you, to keep hope alive. David said, I would have fainted had I not believed to see the goodness of God in the land of the living. We must remain in faith and keep hope alive. Hope is excited expectation.

6/12/2008 1:09:57 PM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

Most of what you wrote sounds like my situation. My husband says grace at meals and he thanks God for the "many blessings" he has given us. He doesn't go to church and he sometimes puts down "organized relegion". I love him and I am trying hard to keep my peace. He is taking me camping next week end and last week end he was very attentive & affectionate. I really wish he would be that way all the time. God knows. Please let's pray for each others situation and let's keep each other lifted up. It is so much easier to pray for someone else than it is to pray for ourselves.
Thank you for being who you are. You are a great blessing to me and I cherish your comments and uplifting words.
I thank you God for my online friend and I ask that you bless her and give her what she needs in her life. She is a blessing to me Lord and I love her for all she has done. Thank you Lord that you have healed my marriage and I ask that you would please save my husband and Mrspiggy's in a quick and expedient manner. In Christ's name I pray.
Amen.
Have a wonderful day.

6/12/2008 1:44:29 PM by needamiracle, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/2/2008

Needamiracle:
You've said many times in this discussion that you want your mairrage really badly!!! (exclamations for emphasis) The Bible says "Delight yourselves in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart." Psalm 37:4
I kinda know how you feel about this. My ex-girlfriend, whom i still love dearly, decided that she no longer wanted christianity to play a major role in her life. She disrespected my Father and broke a lifelong promise to my adopted brother, who both died for her! Blood is thicker than water, so no matter how much i want to marry her, i know i can't until she changes. I'll be in fervent prayer for your husband, God hates divorce. Stick with him for as long as you can and one of two things will happen. Most likely, God will change him and deal with him separately and you two will have a long lasting and fullfilled mairrage together in Christ. I hope I could encourage you in these troubled times your going through... pray that God will give you strength.

6/13/2008 12:13:21 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/27/2008

Satan has been working against me really hard the last couple of weeks. I reread the posts on here all the time and I use them for encouragement. However I am really being tried.
We went away for the weekend and it was wonderful. There was love there and happiness and we enjoyed each others company so much. We even went to see his dad and his father with tears in his eyes told him how happy he was that we were getting along. I was really happy.Then Monday came and everything changed. He would not let me kiss him, he would not answer me when I asked a question, he would not let me hug him. He would go from talking to me nicely to snapping at me.
I believe that miracles happen. And I have been holding on to the post that mspiggy but on here.

God is not healing your marriage. It's already healed. "When you pray, BELIEVE you receive and you will have what you ask." You have to believe when you pray. I believed when I prayed. So, it's done. Do you understand the Law of Confession? You are to say what God says. God says your marriage is healed. It's all in the believing!!! Believe it, say it, receive it.

I need the Lord to reach in a mighty way and allow my husband to see that satan is putting these thoughts (what ever they are ) in his mind and that God is ready to heal him and is healing this marriage.
Please help me pray as I am getting weak and I need to stay strong
Can the Lord please place a special blessing on my husband today so that when I get home I see the change. Even if the change is just a small one? I love the Lord and I love my husband very much and I do not want to lose this marriage to satan. He is a thief and a lier and he doesn't belong in our marriages or families.
Thank you so much Lord for always listening when we pray. I love you and I praise you for the work you are doing even though it may not be evident to me right now. Continue to heal this marriage and Lord today touch my husband in a way that he will be able to have his heart softened and be able to see what he has. Send someone into his life today a good christian man that will have the right words and my husband will be open to what he is saying. Let this person, be open to what you want them to say to my husband and allow them to be your instrument. Lord I ask that the prayers that are raised for me be first for peace to wait on Your timing and then for the right spirit to stay in prayer.
Thank you Lord for being the awesome God that you are. And thank you that my prayers are heard and answered and that this marriage is healed by the name of Jesus Christ.

6/26/2008 10:31:01 AM by needamiracle, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/2/2008

Sister,
This is going to sound a bit "out there", but it's true. Your husband's reactions are not about you or his feelings for you. There is a battle going on within him. A spiritual battle. His heart has been pierced and Father is drawing him. Did you think satan would just let him go that easily? We know satan is defeated, but he is trying to hold on to your husband as long as possible.

Do not fear and don't dare doubt. God is always the winner. It's going to be this way until your husband let it go completely. He will suffer mood swings. You stay consistent. Stay loving, speak softly. Be comforting, a loving friend. Keep him lifted up in prayer. Cover him with the Blood of Jesus.

6/26/2008 10:59:41 AM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

Nothing is to hard for God. I will pray for you. My dad told me once, You cant make someone love you. It's true you cant but God can turn anyone's eyes around to his perfect will. You keep doing what's right and honest in God's eyes and he will see you through.

8/7/2008 9:08:52 PM by js1975, Member of Delve into Jesus since 8/6/2008