I have been under alot of pressure and i know that it's an attack from the beast, but thats not the real problem which there is always the solution to a problem. but i have alot of people that look up to me and what the lord have brought me from.AND it feels good to have people to appreciate that. But i too get weak at times satan finds the closest people to me to attack .HE uses my wife all the time and we try both of us. I love her with all my heart it's been 15 years now and thats pretty good for 30 years old. She is the only child though and in all honesty i think that she has an issue submitting to her husband as the bible says. I have told her over and over but it don't ever get to the point i'm looking for. And i know what i got to do towards her to deserve what i'm asking . sometimes i think she just wants to be in total charge of everything.I'm asking god to help me be the rock that he's made me to be and give me the light for the dark times. My mother seemed to be concerned about my mind state you know because i actually have alot going on this moment. The courts placed me on a leg device due to too many tickets previous and prior until feb1.which it could be worse you know? and now i lost my job which i have to pay 65 dollars a week just to stay out of jail.But honestly the lord have made a way this far he won't stop now. I'M more cocerned about maintaing total responsibilitiy to be able to be a liveing testimony to my friends still dealing drugs, doing drugs ,just over looking the lord period Ido believe god has called me to be a special person to work in his favor.any suggestions on a better way to get me and my wife in line with the word without any confusion?So she can get a better understanding on what the lord exspects

12/9/2008 1:07:22 AM by jodieblunt, Member of Delve into Jesus since 12/2/2008

I found a Tract that may be helpful to you and your Wife.

"10 Disciplines of a Godly Woman"
Discipline seems like a hard word, but discipline is your lifeline, something that you learn to embrace and thank God for as you grow in him.

The apostle Paul links the idea of discipline with spiritual life: Train yourself for godlinessreferring to a spiritual workoutfor godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come (1 Timothy 4:7-8). A Christian womans life is about bringing her will and every area of her life under submission to Gods will.

1. Discipline of the Gospel: The Source of Godliness
Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures (1 Corinthians 15:3). To be a godly woman you must know what this gospel is, believe it, and make it the center of your life. Never lose the wonder of the gospel. John 3:16 is not only a beautiful summary of what God has done, it ought to be the true center of our livingdefining, motivating, and satisfying us. The gospel is a womans first and most important discipline, for it is the source of godliness.

2. Discipline of Submission: The Posture of Godliness
It saddens me that submission has been eliminated from our cultural vocabulary. Bringing our lives into submission to Gods will in everything is the key to being a godly woman (Philippians 2:8-11). It is also the path to joy.

Submission applies to every area of our lives, and we begin by restoring the gospel to its rightful place at the center of our thoughts and deeds everyday. Its an ongoing, daily choosing of Gods ways over our own ways (James 4:7-10; Hebrews 12:9). Is the will of God more important than our lives (Luke 9:24)?

3. Discipline of Prayer: Submissions Lifeline
Pray at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication (Ephesians 6:18). Prayer is the source of power for growth and perseverance in our spiritual lives. It bends our wills to Gods, which is what submitting our lives is all about.

Prayer cannot be reduced to a few simple rules, and though we sometimes talk about meditation, confession, adoration, submission, and petition, there is no prescribed order. But continual prayer is Gods will for us we must always be looking up, even when driving to work or cleaning the house.

4. Discipline of Worship: Submissions Celebration
Worship encompasses all of life: Present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship (Romans 12:1). Because Christ is the ultimate revelation of God (Colossians 1:15-20), he must be the central focus of our worship as understood through Scripture (1 Timothy 4:13). Worship whether by oneself at home, in the workplace, classroom, or with the church gatheredis consecration. Every woman who calls herself a Christian must understand that worship is the ultimate priority of her life every day.

5. Discipline of Mind: Submissions Education
No computer will ever be able to think Gods thoughts or know the heart of God or do his works. But its what the brain was created forto have the mind of Christ. What a scandal that so many Christians dont think Christianly!

In one comprehensive sentence, Paul prescribes his personal mental program: Whatever is true honorable just pure lovely commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things (Philippians 4:8). If you are filled with Gods Word, your life can then be informed and directed by Godyour relationships at home, parenting, career, ethical decisions, and internal moral life.

6. Discipline of Contentment: Submissions Rest
Paul wrote from prison that he had learned in whatever situation I am to be content (Philippians 4:11). Fortunately for us, he said that he had learned... there is hope for all of us who face the monster of discontent!

Applying our knowledge of God to our circumstances is the key to contentment. It will be ours when all that God is and all that he has done in Christ fills our heart. We may lack many things in this world, but as godly women we must work to develop the discipline of contentment.

7. Discipline of Propriety: Submissions Behavior
Propriety means behaving in ways appropriate for Christiansactions that dont bring shame to the Gospel and to Christ. Propriety elevates our words, our appearance, and our attitudes. Its a perfect word for describing what Paul means when he tells believers to act in a manner of lifeworthy of the gospel (Philippians 1:27).

Propriety means acting in a way worthy of the Gospel in dress (1 Peter 3:3-4), speech, and attitude (Colossians 3:12-14). If your behavior is worthy of the Gospel, the source of that behavior will be a heart authentically bowed in humble submission to Jesus as Lord.

8. Discipline of Perseverance: Submissions Challenge
Faith in the goodness of God in the face of extreme adversity grows out of a discipline of perseverance in the day-in, day-out grind of everyday life. Let us run with endurance the race that is set before us (Hebrews 12:1).

We all can develop perseverance by daily submitting to Gods will and looking to Jesus in whatever irritating, insignificant duties or grand-scale tragedies we may suffer (Romans 8:18; Hebrews 12:3). It involves submitting to God in our trials while trusting him to be good, wise, merciful, just, kind, lovingly all-knowing, and all-powerful.

9. Discipline of Singleness or Marriage: Submissions Framework
Singleness is a positive assignment (1 Corinthians 7:7) to be joyously received knowing that God doesnt plan to give anyone less than the best. If marriage is our assignment, then we must discipline ourselves to submit to Gods willto live as our husbands helpers (Genesis 2:18), submitting to and respecting their position (Ephesians 5:22-24), and developing a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:1).

As single or married daughters of Evethe mother of all living (Genesis 3:20)we must cultivate nurturing spirits. How we care for others will be dictated by where God places usin a home, in a hospital, in the inner city, wherever.

10. Discipline of Good Deeds: Submissions Industry
As believers we are created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them (Ephesians 2:10). Good deeds are the redeemed hearts response of gratitude for the gift of Gods grace (1 Peter 2:12).

We gospel women must determine to develop the discipline of good deeds: as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith (Galatians 6:10). Let us fill our days with good deeds.

As you cultivate the disciplines of godly womanhood, consider Pauls words: I worked harder than any of them, though it was not I, but the grace of God that is with me (1 Corinthians 15:10). There is no contradiction between grace and hard work. As we attempt to do Gods will, he always gives more grace!

http://www.crossway.org/product/663575731115full-text

12/9/2008 5:24:36 PM by Ignited~Faith, Member of Delve into Jesus since 2/20/2008

Here is another Tract which may help you become the Husband God intends you to be for your Wife!

"10 Disciplines of a Godly Man"
Men, we will never get anywhere in life without discipline, and doubly so in spiritual matters. None of us is inherently righteous, so Pauls instructions regarding spiritual discipline in 1 Timothy 4:7-8 take on personal urgency: Train yourself for godliness; for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.

That word train comes from the Greek word from which we derive gymnasium. So, I invite you into Gods Gymto some pain and great gain!

Discipline of Purity
Sensuality is the biggest obstacle to godliness among Christian men. The fall of King David should not only instruct us but scare the sensuality right out of us! Fill yourself with Gods Wordmemorize passages like 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8, Job 31:1, Proverbs 6:27, Ephesians 5:3-7, and 2 Timothy 2:22. Find someone who will help you keep your soul faithful to God.

A pure mind is impossible if you mindlessly watch TV and movies or visit pornographic web sites (1 Thessalonians 4:3-7). Develop the divine awareness that sustained Joseph: How then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God? (Genesis 39:9).

Discipline of Relationships
To be all God wants you to be, put some holy sweat into your relationships! If youre married, you need to live out Ephesians 5:25-31: Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (v. 25). For those who are fathers, God provides a workout in one pungent sentence: Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4).

Relationships are not optional (Hebrews 10:25); they enable us to develop into what God wants us to be and most effectively learn and live Gods truth.

Discipline of Mind
The potential of possessing the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16) introduces the scandal of todays churchChristians who do not think Christianly, leaving our minds undisciplined. The Apostle Paul understood this well: whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things (Philippians 4:8). Each ingredient is a matter of personal choice.

You can never have a Christian mind without reading the Scriptures regularly because you cannot be influenced by that which you do not know.

Discipline of Devotion
Reading Gods Word is essential, but meditation internalizes the Word and responds, I desire to do your will, O my God (Psalm 40:8). Beyond instructions like Ephesians 6:18-20, there are two great reasons to pray. The more we expose our lives to the white-hot sun of Christs righteous life, the more his image will be burned into our character. The second reason is that prayer bends our wills to Gods will.

Many men never have an effective devotional life because they never plan for it; they never expose their lives to his pure light.

Discipline of Integrity
We can hardly overstate the importance of integrity to a generation of believers so much like the world in ethical conduct. But integritys benefitscharacter, a clear conscience, deep intimacy with Godargue its importance.

We must let Gods Word draw our lines of conduct. Our speech and actions must be intentionally true (Proverbs 12:22; Ephesians 4:15), backed by the courage to keep our word and stand up for our convictions (Psalm 15:4). An old saying sums it up: Sow an act, reap a habit. Sow a habit, reap a character. Sow a character, reap a destiny.(1)

Discipline of Tongue
If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this persons religion is worthless (James 1:26). The true test of a mans spirituality is not his ability to speak, but rather his ability to bridle his tongue!

Offered to God on the altar, the tongue has awesome power for good. There must be an ongoing prayerfulness and resolve to discipline ourselves: Who keeps the tongue doth keep his soul.(2)

Discipline of Work
We meet God, the Creator, as a worker in Genesis 1:12:2. Since God created man in his own image (1:27), the way we work will reveal how much we allow the image of God to develop in us.

There is no secular/sacred distinction; all honest work ought to be done to the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31). We must recover the biblical truth that our vocation is a divine calling and thus be liberated to do it for the glory of God.

Discipline of Perseverance
Hebrews 12:1-3 presents a picture of perseverance in four commands.

Divest! Lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely (v. 1a). That includes besetting sin, and anything else that hinders.

Run! with endurance the race that is set before us (v. 1b). Each of us can finish our race (see also 2 Timothy 4:7).

Focus! Looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith (v. 2). There never was a millisecond that he did not trust the Father.

Consider! Our life is to be spent considering how Jesus lived (v. 3).

Discipline of Church
You dont have to go to church to be a Christian; you dont have to go home to be married. But in both cases if you do not, you will have a very poor relationship!

You will never attain your full spiritual manhood, nor will your family reach its spiritual maturity without commitment to the church. Find a good church, join it, and commit yourself to it wholeheartedly. Your participation should include financial support, but it should also include giving your time, talents, expertise, and creativity to the glory of God.

Discipline of Giving
How can we escape the power of materialism? By giving from a heart overflowing with Gods grace, like the believers in Macedonia who gave themselves first to the Lord (2 Corinthians 8:5): this is where grace giving must begin.

Giving disarms the power of money. Though giving should be regular, it should also be spontaneous and responsive to needs. And it should be joyousGod loves a cheerful giver (2 Corinthians 9:7). And Jesus said, It is more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20:35).

As we sweat out the disciplines of a godly man, remember, with Paul, what energizes us to live them outnot I, but the grace of God that is with me (1 Corinthians 15:10).

http://www.crossway.org/product/663575731092full-text

12/9/2008 5:28:42 PM by Ignited~Faith, Member of Delve into Jesus since 2/20/2008

you are very grounded in the word and i thank you for giving me such a concrete response god bless you

12/18/2008 10:51:34 PM by jodieblunt, Member of Delve into Jesus since 12/2/2008

Jodiblunt,
You are so welcome.
I love God's Word more than I can ever tell you!
I pray that you and your Wife will be doers of God's Word.
It is lifechanging!

"But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only,
deceiving your own selves."
James 1:22

12/21/2008 10:56:58 PM by Ignited~Faith, Member of Delve into Jesus since 2/20/2008

Jodieblunt,
The Lord Is Using you. Maybe just maybe alot of things that your wife is dealing with is God dealing with her. His eyes sees more than we can see. We can't have a testimony without a test. You know yourself when God is in control....everything is possible. Meaning...you are the leader....you are of God...believe it or not nothing can reach a woman better than a man of God. (smile) Your wife loves you...no doubt....just make sure it's all for God. She needs to be the woman He wants her to be first...then she will be the wife you desire. God got it....

12/27/2008 9:55:26 PM by mexbias08, Member of Delve into Jesus since 12/25/2008

Mexbias is spot on i was thinking if you want to be the head of your family you need to get yourself into a postion where you hear God clearly then you won't be in leg irons, telling someone else what to be or do, i'm so sorry, i think it's awsome 15 years, read His word together let His word speak to both of you, grow in Him together. God bless you both.

12/27/2008 11:11:00 PM by mammak, Member of Delve into Jesus since 9/3/2008

yea since this post it's done got alot better with us and i would'nt trade it for a million dollars now come with 2 and we can discuss it (smile) nah . i am happy to have made another year with my family i thank god for that. And i appreciate the post , thank you both and god bless

1/1/2009 1:36:56 PM by jodieblunt, Member of Delve into Jesus since 12/2/2008