I WAS STUNNED WHEN I LISTED TO A VOICEMAIL MESSAGE TO MY HUSBAND THAT STATED THAT HE NEED TO LEAVE ANOTHER MANS WIFE ALONE AND TO STOP SENDING HER TEXT MESSAGES AND TRYING TO TAKE HER OUT TO DINNER ...AND SO ON. IT WAS A VERY UPSETTING VULGER VM. I ASKED MY HUSBAND ABOUT IT AND HE DENIED ANYTHING CONCERNING IT. I KEPT ASKING WHY SOMEONE WOULD SEND SUCH A THING IF HE WAS INNOCENT. HE BECAME VERY ANGRY WITH ME FOR NOT BELIEVING HIM. HE HAS NOT ALWAYS BEEN FAITHFUL TO ME IN OUR ALMOST 5 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. HE HAS NEVER CONFESSED ANYTHING THAT HE DID WAS WRONG BUT HE KNOWS I WOULDNT APPROVE. EXP... 2 YEARS AGO HE BOUGHT FLOWERS FOR A SINGLE MOTHER ONVALENTINES DAY. HE SAID HE WAS ONLY TRYING TO DOA NICE THING FOR SOMEONE. OF COURSE I SAW IT DIFFERENTLY. I HAVE MOVED PAST IT AND FORGAVE HIM EVEN WHEN HE DID NOT ASK TO BEFORGIVEN. ALL THIS MAKES IT HARD FOR ME TO TRUST HIM. I PRAY ALL THE TIME THAT THE LORD WILL KEEP HIM STRON WHEN FACED WITH TEMPTATION AND THAT I WILL BE STRONG AND BE AT PEACE. I JUST AM SO WORRIED OF GOING THROUGH THIS AND HAVE IT END UP IN DIVORCE LIKE MY FIRST ONE DID. PLEASE HELP IF YOU CAN

8/7/2008 9:00:55 PM by js1975, Member of Delve into Jesus since 8/6/2008

Sweetie,

We can either pray and trust God or we can worry. But, we can't really do both. Forgive your husband even if he never admits to anything or ask for forgiveness. It is for your sake that you must forgive. Invite God into your marriage. Tell Him your concerns. Trust in God. Pray for your husband and treat him well. Show him the respect due and focus on the word of God. Don't be distracted by voice mails or flowers. Maybe he was trying to do something nice for a single mother. Let it go. Cast your cares on God. Let Him bear your burdens so that you may be at peace. Draw closer in your walk with the Lover of your soul. He never cheats, never dissappoints. Husbands want to be trusted and believed. Believe positive things about your husband. Cast down wrong imaginations. Try believing God is good and your husband loves you and is faithful. Pray without ceasing. Read your Bible to build your faith. Trust God with your husband and your marriage.

8/8/2008 10:11:52 PM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

Thank you Mrs Piggy,
Maybe I needed that advice to help me move out of the depths of worry

8/12/2008 9:14:43 PM by js1975, Member of Delve into Jesus since 8/6/2008

I know it has been a month or so since you wrote this but I wanted to share something with you that worked for me. Something very similar happened in my marriage and I prayed to God and asked Him to show me the truth.

Two days later my husband came to me and told me he wanted a divorce. He had his reasons but none of them made much sense to me. I continued to pray about it. My husband left for two nights and came home the third morning. My husband told me he made a mistake and he had been having an affair. He told me that he loved me and he wanted to work it out. I was so overjoyed that he finally told me the truth! Of course I was devestated that he cheated but we are working on that now.

All I am saying is that God came through with the truth for me. All you have to do is ask for it sweetie.

Good luck and God bless!

9/9/2008 11:17:15 PM by babyj248, Member of Delve into Jesus since 8/25/2008

My Dearest Sister and Friend
It is easy for us to say pray. In fact that is the best advice there is. But as a wife I know how you feel. My last marriage was full of adultery. It is not a good feeling. All I can say is you keep your head up and please keep God in your life. Place God first and everthing will fall into place. Try not to show your husband that it bothers you...stand strong. Because right now satan has a hold on him...and satan hates to be ignored(smile). Usually when we ignore him he flees. Just don't give into him. And yes....pray

12/28/2008 7:59:32 PM by mexbias08, Member of Delve into Jesus since 12/25/2008

Don't want to say too much cuz of the internet.... but I think my husband is and has been. I"m crushed, can't eat can't sleep,throw up, can''t do anything....... my life is over!!!!!!! Not the first time, knew the first guy (husband) could, and did it over and over and I just turned a blind eye. Didn't really care about him, cuz he was sooooooo mean. My now husband, He knows my history but that just doesn't seem to matter. I need to know how do I pick myself up? I can no longer hear the flat out lies to my face over and over and catch him in 10 lies a day and know. I get told I'm crazy and that is a scam and they lied and the phone bill is wrong and oh what did you want me to say, when I catch him in some stupid little lie. What he does for a living helps his situtaion, he has all the time in the world. Not that it matters but I'm attactive and I'M A GREAT WIFE!!!!!!!!!!! His friends call him the king cuz I treat him like one. What now, cuz I'm ready to divorce after this week, really I prayed to God and got more ammo and not as of pics but more than this girl can take in facts. He couldn't even come up with a good explaintion. I'm sooooo done, but I can't kick the habit him. I put myself down like a dog everytime and take it. I am a toooooooooooooooooooo forgiving person and want to see the good and the reasons and he knows that. He knows I wear my heart on my sleeve. Oh the other hand I lash out with hurtful words when I an wounded, and I am. Just want someone to tell me how to disregard him like he does me, I DON'T KNOW HOW, I'm not wired like that, it is not a switch I pull and love you love you not!!! When I'm finished I'm finished and he is pushing down a fast slope. Don't know if I can even do this another day but I will. I'm sooooooooooooooooooooooo hurt. Wish God would just for once let me know so I can make plan, I feel like a stupid fool. Really I'm just fixing to do to him what he does to me... I say that but I can't .... I know if he hasn't destroyed or marriage in the eyes of God that would, but I want too.

8/31/2011 9:01:52 PM by metoosad, Member of Delve into Jesus since 8/31/2011

The way to disregard him is to replace him with Jesus. Make pleasing Jesus your first priority. I recently heard a pastor say, "How someone else treats me is not my business." It caught my attention and I continued listening. He said, we are all responsible for our own behavior and have to account to God for how we treat people. So, how you treat someone is between you and the Lord. And how someone treats you is between them and the Lord. You just focus on treating your husband as the Bible instructs a wife. Don't allow yourself to be ruled by your emotions. Of course it is easier to say than to do, but it can be done. Love is not an emotion, it's action. Our example is John 3:16, For God so loved the world, He gave...

Pray for strength and trust the God who loved you enogh to give His Only to heal your heart.

When we want those around us to change, we have to renew our minds (Romans 12:2). And when you change, those around you must change ro accomodate the new you.

9/3/2011 8:45:04 AM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

I pray this helps:

"Discovering that her husband has had an affair is one of the most difficult news any wife has to face...."
To read the rest of the article, go to:

"When Your Husband Has an Affair"
(Click below, or you may need to copy and paste
it to your browser.)
http://www.thoughts-about-god.com/family/en-husband-affair.html

God bless you.

10/31/2011 12:44:36 PM by Ignited~Faith, Member of Delve into Jesus since 2/20/2008