Hi. My husband and I have just seperated. He was verbally and physically abusive to me. I just found out that he is living with and planning to marry another woman. We are not divorced yet and have only been split up a couple of weeks. When we first seperated we agreed to try to talk things out. Now I dont know what to think or what to do. And I'm really confused about what to do that would be right in god's eyes. Any advice?

6/24/2008 7:33:38 PM by cnaandmom, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/24/2008

I would say it is alright to divorce in this case. God did not intend for His daughters to be mistreated. I will look for the BCV that states if a man marries a woman and then decides he don't like her, he is not to mistreat her, but let her go back to her family. I know it's in the OT. And if he is living with another woman, that's adultry.

6/24/2008 8:32:15 PM by mrspiggy, Member of Delve into Jesus since 1/18/2008

In the old testament, the only valid reason given for married people to separate/divorce was if one had committed sexual immorality. This is perfectly acceptable.

6/26/2008 3:13:08 AM by Carrots, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/26/2008

I'm so sorry to hear what has happened. I pray that the Lord gives you comfort and wisdom in the days ahead. I will be holding you up in prayer. (Psalm 23)

6/26/2008 5:13:30 AM by Ignited~Faith, Member of Delve into Jesus since 2/20/2008

cnaandmom, I'm so sorry to hear about this terrible situation. It's never, ever God's desire that two married people would divorce. However, it takes two to make a marriage work and if your husband will not commit to your marriage, what choice do you have? It's one thing to choose divorce, but it does not sound like you've chosen it - it sounds like the choice was made for you, against your will for that surely seems like what your husband wants. All I can suggest is to give him every opportunity to come back to you again and again, and forgive him again and again if he repents. Don't allow this to happen quickly and don't rush into divorce. If he shows even a hint of a suggestion that he might come back, be patient. However, if he shows no sign of changing his abusive ways and honoring his commitment to you, and you've done everything you can, then divorce will be your only option. I believe God will understand this and will be with you to comfort you in your sorrow. Again, I'm so sorry for the pain you're going through. Please know that we love you and we're here to help in any way we can. God Bless.

6/27/2008 9:25:31 PM by Michael Lane, Executive Director, Delve Christian Ministries

Ive been through this its not an easy thing But God will be with you and will make you into someones happy wife again if youre not reconciled to your husband. I will be praying for you

10/19/2011 12:52:19 PM by chris_sims1981, Member of Delve into Jesus since 10/11/2011

Your husband's job is to love and protect you. For him to abuse you is as unjustifiable and as much of a broken vow as infidelity would be.

4/26/2012 6:14:08 AM by AndyB, Member of Delve into Jesus since 4/26/2012

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