I recently just broke up with my boyfriend of, well...we've been on and off for three years basically. It is heartbreaking, but I knew that is what God was calling me to do. I had prayed about it for awhile and I felt really at peace with my decision, although I was sad. He wasn't being the spiritual leader that I needed him to be, he wrapped his entire identity into me, instead of God. I care about him so much that I knew the only way for him to be able to put his identity back into Christ was with me out of the picture. I don't know if he will really be working on it or not, but I am trying to just trust God that no matter what he does, God has a plan for me, whether or not it includes him in the future. But its like some days i put my trust in God about all that stuff and other days i take it back. I know God has someone for me and it will be someone who is so in love with God, but i can't help feeling sometimes like I need my ex-boyfriend, because I'll end up alone without him. I guess I just need some encouragement, anyone have any good verses for me?

6/6/2008 1:30:20 AM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

"Be still, and know that I am God;" Psalm 46:10a "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirableif anything is excellent or praiseworthythink about such things."Philippians 4:6-8 "Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." 1 Peter 5:6-7

6/6/2008 8:36:00 AM by Ignited~Faith, Member of Delve into Jesus since 2/20/2008

hey blackbox: I know what you're going through. I had to do the same thing recently with my girlfriend. The verse that's always helped me was Romans 8:28 "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Ignited Faith: Those verses of scripture are wonderful, they helped me out too.

6/6/2008 12:04:48 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/26/2008

Thank you, those verses are really encouraging. They are something I can cling to right now. Thanks so much!

6/6/2008 4:09:05 PM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

I'm praying for you both! I remember going through similar situations in the past... Stay close to the Lord. You are blessed to know Him. He will see you through. (Yes, Blackbox, meditate on His Word. Take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ!) God is good to you. (And He cares about your friends.)

6/6/2008 4:22:40 PM by Ignited~Faith, Member of Delve into Jesus since 2/20/2008

Thank you, your prayers mean a lot to me. Another good scripture i just thought of that's always helped me, and helped me make the dicision to break up, was Phillipians 4:13 "For i can do ALL things through Christ who STRENGTHENS me." (caps for added emphasis)

6/6/2008 5:56:07 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/26/2008

I love how you can read verses over and over again and still find new meanings or new ways to apply them. Thank you spex70 for the phillipians one. I know that verse, but i really needed to be reminded of it again. I feel so weak right now, just with this whole thing and a couple other things that are weighing on me, and I just needed to be reminded that I can get through this storm because when I am weak, He is strong. Thank you soooo much!!!! And thank you IgnitedFaith for your prayers and wonderful verses as well!

6/7/2008 12:29:43 AM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

Hi Blackbox - I'm sorry for your loss but am encouraged by your desire to look to God and His word for your comfort. Have you checked out these scriptures? Psalm 34:18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Isaiah 61:1 The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners.

6/7/2008 8:26:24 AM by Ryan, Member of Delve into Jesus since 12/30/2007

Ryan: I read over the scriptures you posted... they really help me a lot, even though i didn't start this discussion, i still benefit. Blackbox: Thank you for starting this discussion. It seems that you started it at the exact time that i needed encouragement too. I agree with Ryan, it is truly an awesome thing when you turn to God and his Word in times of great emotional distress. Tell me something, when you left him, did it for some reason feel almost wrong to do the right thing?

6/7/2008 10:35:57 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/26/2008

Hi Spex - in time, you can consider Psalm 30:11. "You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy."

6/7/2008 11:06:23 PM by Ryan, Member of Delve into Jesus since 12/30/2007

Amen to that!!!

6/7/2008 11:13:30 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/26/2008

Spex, to your question, I really felt at peace with my decision, but it kinda did feel almost wrong to do it. I know it was right, because I know God was calling me to do this, but there was and still is just so much emotion involved. I know this is for the best though. God laid this on my heart a long time before i actually did it though. In march i helped chaparone a middle school youth group trip up to this believe conference thing. It was great for the middle school kids, but i ended up being blessed by it too! God started showing me then, that there is something really missing in my relationship, as time went on things got worse. God showed me what to do, but i was so hesitant to do it. I was so scared and i felt like it would be wrong, but finally i did. I felt at peace when i did it, but i do go through my moments of trusting and not trusting God that everything will work out for me, lol. I am sorry to hear that you are going through this all too Spex. I'm glad this discussion is benefiting both of us! If you don't mind me asking how long were you with your girlfriend?

6/8/2008 2:38:07 AM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

I was with her for about 8 months, and i too felt like i knew i'd have to do this sooner or later. God showed me something, shortly after we first started dating, that changed my feelings about the relationship i was in. I found out that she was involved in the practices of witchcraft and claimed that she was being taught those things by a goddess that visited her in her dreams. When i heard about that i was determined to do all i could to get her out of that, so i took her to church, found many scriptures in the Bible to show her that it was wrong... but the straw that broke the camel's back was when she came to me and told me one morning that christianity no longer had a big impact on her. At that point i knew whatever else i tried to do would fail because i wasn't obeying what God led me to do in the first place. So i finally made up my mind that, no matter how hard it would be for both of us, i had to just step back and pray that God would take care of it. I know now that, somehow, He'll bring us both out of this and we'll both be with the one's we love soon. All we need to do is trust in God and pray that he shows them what they need to see in order to change. By the way, what's his name? I'd be happy to pray for him.

6/8/2008 5:15:43 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/26/2008

His name is Aaron. Yeah I agree with you, but sometimes, its just so hard to completely just step back and let God handle it all. I find myself wanting to check in on Aaron and see if he is making any progress, but i know i shouldnt be doing that, because that is what happened before and he never ended up really changing and then we got back together because i saw change that i wanted to see instead of change that was really there. So i am trying really hard just let God handle this one. I can't force Aaron to change. I can't drag him to God and make him work on his lying problems and everything else, if he wants to do it, then he will, but i have to let go and let God. Its hard though. I just have to keep praying for him. what was her name? I'd love to pray for her as well.

6/8/2008 5:47:49 PM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

Her name is Kaila. I know how you feel, i have the same desire to ask her if anything's changed every now and then. You're right about not being able to make him change, and that's the hardest thing for me. I just wish there was some way i could make her change, or at least destroy her desire to continue in witchcraft. Father God, i thank you that you've helped us both in our relationship problems. I give you thanks for helping us deal with the pain and heartache that we must bear for a short time, but God, i pray that this too shall pass and everything will be reconciled. I pray that you will show Aaron the err of his ways and that you lead his heart back to you and back to Blackbox as well. Lord give us the strength to endure. All these things i pray in your name, Amen

6/8/2008 5:55:55 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/26/2008

Thank you so much! That was so encouraging and just what I needed! God is so good! He really is! I've really been feeling bad lately because, well when i first started going through this I was going to God about it all, and then somewhere, out of nowhere, I guess thats how satan works, one of me and Aarons non christians friends came along side to comfort me. In my vulnerable state, we got too close and now i feel terrible. I started going to this guy instead of God. I am making a turn around now and i am so happy to have found this site and to be going to God about things. But the guilt of this guy weighs heavy on me. Everything just happened so fast with me and Aaron breaking up and then this guy coming in and...I dont know, i just feel awful. I wish I never left my Father's side during this storm, because i really made things worse. I've asked God for forgiveness about it all, but I can't help but feeling that i need to tell aaron about what happened, why do i feel like that?

6/8/2008 6:15:23 PM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

Guilty spirit? To tell you the truth, i believe that your so called conscience is simply your spirit inside telling you what you have to do. You probably feel that way because when your connected to God through the Holy Spirit, He leads you through feelings into what He wants you to do. I feel that you need to tell him so that he can forgive you now, whereas if you didn't tell him and he found out, he might not want to forgive you for keeping it from him. The Bible says "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective." James 5:16 I kinda have a similar problem with Kaila. I made a promise to one of her best friends that i wouldn't break up with her over "religious matters". When i made that promise, i thought i still had it under control and that i could change her myself, but then i had to break up with her and at the same time break that promise i made. Now to win Kaila's forgiveness i must make ammends with her best friend... i just know that the first thing that's gonna happen when i go to apologise to her is she's gonna slap me, not for breaking the promise, but for breaking Kaila's heart, you know how best friends are, lol.

6/8/2008 6:37:01 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/26/2008

I really needed to hear that! Thank you! To tell you the truth though, well its probably obvious, I am scared, I haven't really talked to Aaron in a while. Well I have seen him because I have some of the same friends as him, but we havent spoken, other than the casual "hi". I know i need to tell him, but I just don't even know how to. We have barely said more than two words to each other in the past month. I've never kept anything from him before and thats what is making each day i wait harder. I know this all happened after I broke up with him, but i feel like i betrayed him. I feel like a terrible person. I need to tell him, but I feel like such a hypocrite. I feel like thats all he will think of me when i tell him. I know i should never worry about what he will think, i should just tell him, but....i don't know, God and I are working on courage, because i lack it. You sound very brave though. I can see God's strength working in you and it is very encouraging to me. Thank you so much. I feel so weak right now and I don't know, but maybe you have too, but I can see that God has been lifting you up.

6/8/2008 7:39:12 PM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

Don't let fear stop you from doing what you know you have to. Fear is only False Evidence that Appears Real, meaning all these thoughts going through your mind about what he'll think are coming from the enemy. Don't give those thoughts time to do their work, be encouraged, God is all the strength you'll ever need.

6/8/2008 7:43:39 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/26/2008

Phillipians 4:13 "For i can do ALL things through Christ who STRENGTHENS me." I just keep replaying this verse in my head! Thank you for reminding me of it the other day! God won't heal me unless I make the effort and confess this. So I think I am ready to make that effort and confess this! Wow, I can't believe I am saying this! Thank you for all the encouragement! If you don't mind, can you pray for me, that i really go through with this, and set a time to meet with Aaron and talk to him about this. I don't want to chicken out, lol.

6/8/2008 7:56:43 PM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

I'd be happy to. God, i pray right now that you give Blackbox the strength and courage she need to persue this task and confess to Aaron what she has done and that Aaron will be forgiving. I pray that you protect her from this fear that she's dealing with and give her the determination to set a time and place despite any thoughts she might have. Thank you Father for helping her through this difficult time in her life, and again i pray that Aaron is shown what he needs to see in order to change and come running back to you and Blackbox. In your name i pray, Amen.

6/8/2008 8:02:32 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/26/2008

Wow I am slow, lol, I just got the fear thing, lol, hahaha, thats good! I like it!

6/8/2008 8:06:49 PM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

Thank you so much for praying for me!

6/8/2008 8:07:39 PM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

Absolutely... thank you for giving me encouragement as well. I'm not a very strong person emotionally, so as you can probably guess, i was crying for a while after breaking up with Kaila. I needed somewhere do discuss something like this, so i'm so glad you started this discussion board. Thank you.

6/8/2008 8:17:19 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/26/2008

Im glad i found this site; its nice to talk to encouraging people and people who really understand what your going through.

6/8/2008 8:20:30 PM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

I agree 100 percent... ur on right now aren't you...

6/8/2008 8:21:39 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/26/2008

yes

6/8/2008 8:23:11 PM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

do you IM with yahoo?

6/8/2008 8:24:16 PM by Spex70, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/26/2008

I don't know how to with yahoo, but i do with aim or meebo

6/8/2008 8:25:03 PM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

i think meebo works with everything

6/8/2008 8:26:58 PM by blackbox, Member of Delve into Jesus since 6/5/2008

Am a convert from Hindu back ground, i yoked myself with unbeliever and fell in love with her. While this was sin, there was a common friend who got close to me and started blackmailing me about my relationship with the other girl. Trying to control this situation i manipulated her into a relationship with me. Now the bomb exploded and both got to know. I confessed this to my church and am struggling to get my relationship back with God. I know i messed up with God and these two girls. My past thoughts are haunting me. Am not able to digest the fact that i did such a thing. Am struggling every day, every moment. Can someone help me by praying for me or suggest me some scriptures. Am not able to take the pain....

5/17/2011 8:35:56 AM by mahendran, Member of Delve into Jesus since 5/17/2011

Mahendran, "Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool." Isaiah 1:18 "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:9 "And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen. For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." Matthew 6:12-15 "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." Matthew 6:33 These verses are quite clear on the matter. It's under the blood of Jesus. It IS fininshed. Yesterday is past, tomorrow is not here yet. You have the gift of Today! Look UP to the LORD, give Him thanks and praise. He is in full control. Put everything in His Hands, and trust Him completely. May God bless you and confirm any truth you have been told. Thank God you love His Word! The Truth will prevail!

5/17/2011 11:08:12 AM by Ignited~Faith, Member of Delve into Jesus since 2/20/2008

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